When You Grow Up (Oh Wait… You Did) » parents’ perspective you should consider

A message from a grateful daughter and proud mother. (Myself☺️)

You say your parents don’t understand you.

They never really did. And maybe that’s true.

But be honest: have you ever truly tried to understand them too?

Do you even tried to fully understand yourself?

You blame them for not talking enough,

for not loving you the way you wanted,

for missing the signs, for not seeing your pain,

for being too busy, too tired, too distracted to read between all your unspoken lines.

You judge them for not being more present,

for not smiling more, for not showing up every time you fell apart,

for hurting your feelings and sometimes your body.

You hate them, sometimes secretly, sometimes loud,

because deep down you think you deserved their full attention and agreement,

every second, unconditionally, no questions asked.

You even stored all memories with your own interpretation and victim emotions.

Did things really happen the way you perceived or recorded?

Did you ever try to find out others perspective to build the truth? Guess not.

Anyway… you don’t own your parents’ lives.

They didn’t come here to orbit around you.

They didn’t sign a contract to say yes to every version of you.

They weren’t perfect. They were humans.

Messy. Confused. Trying. Doing the best they knew or believed or could. Just like you.

Did you ever consider their own paths and pains?

Now, let’s be real: you’re grown. (And your parents helped here somehow.)

And you’ve been making your own choices, paying your bills, texting back late, ghosting people, repeating patterns, losing your cool in traffic.

You’ve been responsible for you for a long time, right?

So why are you still holding them responsible for needs you haven’t even tried to meet?

What have you been doing with your power?

Healing doesn’t mean pretending nothing hurt.

Or blame others and find an excuse for your pain.

But it does mean you stop waiting for the past to show up and fix you. It won’t.

You are your priority. So, are you owning your path or finding excuses?

You get to choose how this goes NOW.

You get to be the parent you needed.

You get to be the adult you wish they could be.

You get to unlearn the noise and write something new.

So maybe it’s time to stop blaming, and start building.

Stop replaying, and start becoming.

Because if you’re still waiting for someone else to fix it, you’re missing the point.

The healing? It’s only in your hands.

PS.:

When you view your story through love and spiritual clarity, you begin to see that everything happened for you » not to you.

Every wound, every silence, every unmet need shaped the path that brought you to this moment » growing, evolving, and receiving the wisdom to rise and shine.

And from that place of understanding, forgiveness isn’t even necessary. Only gratitude is.