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Katia Costa posted an update
“WE ARE THE CHILDREN OF PARENTS WHO NEVER WENT TO THERAPY”
(And somehow, we made it this far!)We’re the kids of those who did the best they could with what they had — no manuals, no mindfulness apps, no trauma-informed parenting podcasts. Just vibes… and survival.
We grew up in the hush of unspoken things, under rules no one dared question, in homes where emotions learned to zip it and disappear.
We learned to read eyebrows like Shakespearean scripts and decode moods like CIA agents.
Silence was a language, and tension was the background music.It’s not about blaming them — not at all. Every generation carries its own battle scars.
Our parents were kids once, too — raised in a world where vulnerability was a luxury and self-reflection was… well, not really a thing.
They patched up wounds without naming them.
They loved through sacrifice, not hugs and heart-to-hearts.
Boundaries? Either made of steel or simply not there.But now we are here.
We’re the ones learning to speak the unsaid, to call fear by its name without shame.
We’re giving ourselves permission to feel, to cry, to heal — without the weight of guilt.Healing isn’t about blaming — it’s about understanding.
Understanding that they gave what they knew, what they could.
It’s seeing their story with compassion, and ours with responsibility.We are the children of parents who didn’t go to therapy…
And we’re choosing to do it differently.We’re not here to tear it all down.
We’re here to evolve.
To build something new without erasing the old.
To honor their love — and rewrite the patterns.We can’t change the past, but we can change the echo it leaves behind.
So here we are — embracing our messy, magnificent selves.
Turning wounds into wisdom.
Becoming the generation that learns to love out loud, to live fully, to feel deeply.One therapy session at a time.
One boundary at a time.
One brave little “I feel…” at a time.
Cody Turk and Victoria2 Comments-
Both of my parents had severe Early Childhood Trauma and were never treated.
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I think that happens to the majority of humankind.
Our ancestors carried a huge amount of traumas and beliefs related to the survival mode they were living in.
I was watching a series based on real events in 1950s Italy and observed how the family structure was shaped by so much stress, violence, survival needs, poor working conditions, and inadequate healthcare. All of which formed our grandparents. And those grandparents raised our parents… and then here we are.
Our lineage carries a concentrated amount of traumas and reactions, survival-limiting thoughts and behaviors, plus so many false beliefs.
We are at a time and place that allows us to break that cycle.
Awareness and healing are available. Forgiveness, compassion, and love must be shared to heal ourselves, others around us, and others still to come.
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